Can someone slap me please?
I am an idiot. I don’t say this lightly but I have come to this conclusion after much thought. Allow me to explain.
I was sitting in Starbucks this afternoon, reading a very interesting magazine (from which I have many blog-worthy posts to come) with a nice refreshing Frappacino. I drank said frappacino quite quickly and enjoyed it. Alas, my enthusiasm meant I was without beverage to carry on reading. I read for a while and then figured since I was without beverage and there were a few people looking to sit down, I’d leave and go enjoy the sunshine. I started packing up when two guys came up to me. They were holding drinks and had a third one in a cardboard tray.
Guy: Would you by any chance like a tall mild coffee? My friend doesn’t want it and it would go to waste.
Me: Um …. sure, okay. Thanks!
I took the drink (colour me naive or stupid for taking a drink from a stranger, whatever), went to fill it up with milk and splenda, glanced over at the guys, nodded and left. I was in the process of leaving before so I just took the drink along.
I realised 10 minutes later that both guys already HAD drinks in their hands – what was the third drink for? It occured to me then that perhaps I had just been hit on and had a drink bought for the express purpose of giving it to ME.
So I feel stupid. Slap me please.
It just never occurs to me that these things happen. I mean, random guys buying a coffee for a random girl at Starbucks. Really? And then the fact that it happens to me. Really? So it doesn’t cross my mind that it might not be entirely random or motive-less.
And then I feel stupid.
I seriously don’t think of myself as pick-up-worthy and I need to change that. So can someone slap some sense into me.
(and damn, the guys were CUTE too!)
I'm a twenty-something Aussie who was living in Canada and has now moved to New Zealand and trying to be somewhat strong and healthy while I navigate the perils of living with my Boy, freelancing and planning a long-distance wedding without losing my mind. Welcome!
Dr. J said,
July 27, 2008 at 5:26 pm
Go back to the Starbucks and if it’s meant to be…
I liked your level headed post on Charlottes site and thought I’d pay your blog a visit, sorry, no coffee
Thanks for stopping by! Next time though, I take my coffee with skim milk and one splenda thanks!
MizFit said,
July 27, 2008 at 6:52 pm
ok I am SO jumping in on this one
that is so sweet.
cute.
funny.
and lovely.
next time just give em a big ole grin & a wink and say in your best pseudo southern belle voice:
now are you trying to pick up little ole ME?
(what would *I* really do? stammer. get flustered. and spend the rest of the week thinking up witty semi-flirtatious but highly intellectual responses)
The HILARIOUS thing is that my friends look at me for flirting advice and ask themselves “what would gemfit do?” and here I am, clueless as anything!
Dr. J said,
July 28, 2008 at 10:26 am
Women don’t have to do anything! That’s your advantage in the beginning. Unfortunately, after the beginning, women have to do everything! Sorry about that
LOL! But women need to be able to read the signals (as do men) for the flirting to go anywhere. Being clueless is useless!